People see sex in the movies and think wow I wish that was me, but to them it seems far-fetched and

an illusion. You meet someone and if there is chemistry somewhere down the line you two will likely end up having sex. If

it happens on the first night, best bet it wasn't that good. So first thing I like to say, waiting is worth the wait to have more

meaningful sex that has a better chance to turn into a relationship. If you do become a couple the sex is fun and plentiful,

which keeps you wanting more. As time goes by we tend to become a bit lazy. Quickies are spontaneous, but you always

need good old fashion love making for a relationship to survive. You can have a hot sweaty sex with a deep passionate

kissing and fondling, or soft sensual touching and kissing. Both are considered love making. Couples tend to jump in bed

not thinking what they are wearing or their behavior. Many don’t think these things are important. Ladies, men are very

visual. They care more about seeing and touching you, and you being confident enough to allow them. Men, women need

foreplay, so please don't get in bed stroke their backs and assume they are wet enough to try to stick it in. I am guessing that

they are not wet at all. So men, please take the time to find your partners hot spot and learn to get good at it. Ladies, last

thing, if you don't like to go down on him, learn to like it because he does. With two satisfied customers it will keep both of

you coming back for more. This helps you achieve a better chance for a long lasting relationship. xo BARBARA JEANNE